Having a positive outlook takes discipline, time, patience, understanding and a great deal of dedication. If you are one that wants to learn how to be a positive person, with a positive outlook everyday; instead of perhaps someone that looks at the worse case scenarios or dark side of life. You must know it can be done and it is well worth it! With becoming someone who is truly positive, upbeat, happy; you must know you may go through some trials and tribulations to become a person of gratitude and may I say a person who has that total bliss factor! You will find that no matter what the circumstance in your life...everyday will become a valued gift to you and you will be bubbling over. I am exactly saying that if ready and willing to take on this positive feeling endeavor you will instantly begin to find the silver lining in every single situation with ease and grace and with whatever life throws your way.
People may wonder about you. I remember long ago when I was practising my techniques of bubbling happiness, people in my life did not understand that I was turning a new leaf. I was coming into my own and as they said to me "I don't want to be a babbling idiot". I thought...hmm...I feel great, I do not feel like an idiot, just feel pure and complete happiness for the first time in my life.
Whatever situation you are going through, whatever sickness, whatever tragedy-know that positive thinking yes sure may be overused as an ingrediant to happiness. I feel though it is the only way to get through so many of lifes challenges. Of course there are going to be days like we all have where you think-oh man how do I navigate through these dark waters? You must know that there is of course a reason and a bright side to any down fall and anything can be turned into a lemonade course of action, instead of bitter lemons.
I really had no choice in my life to change my thought patterns, sometimes I got others involved and they too felt a sense of relief others still love to challenge my happy thoughts. I often wonder how would I react to different situations that I see my friends and loved ones go through, would I be able to get up each day to go through whatever disaster they may be having. I wonder so many times "how do they do it".
For me, it was one special woman I often think about, I told her of my illness, that I had Bipolar and Anxiety. She said she to has a Mental Illness. I said "no way"! I was young and struggling in many ways. I said, "you seem so capable and able to handle so many things as she bartened where we worked together. I said to her "I am fighting everyday with my illness, what do I do to have a life and outlook and get over this illness like you"? She said surround yourself with POSITIVITY!!! She was only a few years older and I was in awwe of how easily she told me how she got out of her muttled illness and way of thinking. I asked then "how do I do that"? I never heard of such a thing, I was merely getting by and letting life roll right over me. She told me, read positive books, watch inspirational movies, be with people who are upbeat and positive themselves and stay away from anything negative. Then I thought to myself, WOW, I have so much work to do and believed her whole heartedly that if she can do it, get on with her life and away from her mental health struggles then I can too.
For Ten years I read every book that had the word Happiness on it, Positivity, LOVE, Self Care, Abundance, and Success. Of course the list goes on. I was not ever much of a television watcher, so I read so many books that helped me turn my thinking around. These books gave me confidense, an understanding of life, an understanding of myself and how I worked (what made me tick) what I needed to change and how to think clear with a good head on my shoulders. If I watched a movie or rented one at the local video store it would be one of triumph, inspiration or a comedy. I was lost prior to that with no clear thought or what I wanted to do with my life. Five years into my positivity self course, I was learning where I wanted to go, what life I wanted to create for myself, what people I would stay away from if I found them toxic to me and my well being. I had to not only think positivity but also take action and become a smile instead of a frown. So on I went, learning to laugh again, make people laugh again, I really did build some broad shoulders. Like I said with learning the Positve way, life may throw you little tests to see not only how bad you want what you want for your self, happiness and health, but how far you can go.
I trained myself, I stopped gossiping about others, that was my first thing-I can't stand it now, any amount of gossip I usually walk away until that type of conversation has passed. I learned to see the beauty surrounding me and how wonderful nature is. I had to learn to accept and love myself. If I screwed up I had to learn how to try again. Many people heard of me calling these lifes challenges "hiccups". I would go out with a friend and would tell them of a situation that I am dealing with that needs some assistance and told them it is a "hiccup" I am going through.
Where once I use to literally be physically sick before starting a new job because of my anxiety. My body was not in a state of happiness. I had to think healthy, look healthy, present myself healthy and heal. Until then, the anxiety would take me away and kick my ass over and over until I learned how to hold my head up, smile and stay true to my positive coming out nature!
I literally have now a huge handle on the Illness I have. I truly do wake up at sometimes 5 am and think, OOHH can't I wake up yet, I can't wait to start the day. Then think awwe it is too early, and I go back to bed not able to wait for the Sun to show it's glow. I had to watch my words, if it was a negative thought, I had to cancel that and redirect it to something positive. It became my past time. I was single and gave myself time to learn to live positive in a manner that was both spiritually uplifting and physically uplifting. My Spirituality is what saved me, over and over. I believe that my spirituality is what I hold most dear to my heart, without that-I wouldn't be me.
So now, a whole 13 years later, I thought and believed myself well! Took action where sometimes it took a lot of courage. Now I am really at the point where I don't have to think twice about where the silver lining is, it is there everyday in everyway.
So I will say, if you are going through a hard time-don't be afraid to pick up a book, magazine, read something online to help give you strength to be that Happy Positive being where you can shake anything that doesn't suit your vibe. Be that source of LOVE for yourself, enjoy the journey and smile through anything and everything...BE a babbling idiot everyday...and laugh your way towards your new defined self and appreciate every single thing in your life and about you and your loved ones. It is a great challenge with many hiccups but you deserve to rid yourself of any dis-ease with your POSITIVE attitude and yes, that is all you need to overcome any such thing!