Thursday 30 April 2015

Clinical Depression Processed

Here in Canada, as you know Winters are hardly bareable, we do make do and as Canadians are use to the scraping of cars, the havoc of the road conditions, trying to make it to work after what I would call a daring ride to say the least.  Getting up and fighting a storm, walking along the icy street walks, although paved-anyone can slip and fall at any given moment, young-old.  That though does not stop us, we still make our way through the blinding storms through Six dark months sometimes of Winter, just to enjoy a spring and summer of cottages, camping, fishing, hunting, swimming, parks, hikes, flowers blooming, green grass, BBQs with family, celebrations of anything are done under the Sun here in Canada.  It is no doubt, though we still make it to work, even hours of a commute, we still walk through town to pick up what is needed, carrying with us parcels while watching your dicey step, no wonder many of Canadians are more then grumpy in the winter, mostly house bound, mostly quiet, long tiring days turn to long tiring nights of shoveling ready to start the next day.  It is no wonder why so many of us wind up clinically depressed.  An illness many do not understand, winter blues, winter blahs, hum bug....Depression shows up time and time again for many in the winter-each of us carrying this depression sometimes feeling numb, dull, joyless, anxious, frazzled, beyond exhausted and anger.  There are many emotions with clinical depression, these emotions are out of control at the best of times and keeping it under foot is a hard task-ONE "single" thing can cause upset, hightened anxiety, extreme emotions and mood swings and anger.  One hurt, one mean word, one finger point, one glance can cause a spiral into a depression that can last months...many times longer, SOME are not able to fight it, although they want to and are more then willing, more then giving it a good try...their depressed state has some how got the better of them.

We do as Canadians see the light at the end of the tunnel, the Sun comes out and up in April and last sometimes until Novemeber...For this we as Canadians say "WE ARE BLESSED" with laughter, food, friendship, outings.  Though many who suffer longer then a winter full of depression with all it's many moods it becomes harder and harder to understand, grasp and know how to even come out from such darkness.  Some don't.

The depressed don't feel love or loved, don't feel happy, they would give anything to have a laugh, get out and about, do something new and fun...enjoy life, but they really don't have it in them...to have a happy go lucky day FEELING so BLUE, feels much like a lie or big sham to them...so for as long as winter lasts, or HOWEVER the depression was TRIGGERED, it should be taken VERY seriously!

It is not just an emotion of having a crap day.  It is a long lingering feeling of dread, that even if one tries to feel happy, they feel guilty...they try to show up at a gathering and have a strong show of a happy face.....they come home sometimes feeling worse, mad at themselves because they FORGOT how to have and feel happy, forgot to have fun..NOT so much as FORGOT as THEY CAN'T although willing, not quite able YET!  Don't give up hope...and please do not make it harder on them...!!!

Many of these people young and old get ridiculed for there jaunted ways through depression, with no understanding....to point and laugh fuels the depression and anxiety more so...then the spiraling begins...the further DOWN becomes a fight to Further UP, if ONE is lucky to feel the eagerness to climb that one more step up from the darkness, they should be cheered on not ridiculed in any way.  The ladder that they are climbing has more steps to get back to ground zero and hopefully for them to soar one day could make there life a life worth living...LET'S GIVE them a CHANCE! 

For people to "THINK" this person is lazy, poor minded, jaded is a mishap on humanity....when really...this person IS FIGHTING FOR THEIR LIFE, their FAMILY, THEIR courage, their zest...TO be able to enjoy the bbqs in the summer months...actually smiling; not fake, actually at a gathering being very social, not anxious, to be able to enjoy the parks, the swimming, the beach...where you can feel the sand in between your toes and actually sigh a relief of...AHHH...THIS FEELS GREAT! 

Don't judge whatever it is that you do not understand......you never know what battles someone is facing behind closed doors...fighting to see another Day AT THE BEACH at BBQS, at the camping ground, the many celebrations to smile again and laugh outloud with REAL cheer.  Us Canadians are tough, we battle not just snow that melts but feelings that have to be FAUGHT to see the Sun and Smile with relief.