As years go by, you may click with some more then others. And feel a valued part of the relationship. Some relationships teach you a better way, teach you and show you with a mirror held up to your face; who you are and who you are becoming. The tests and these relationships have is valued. It offers an understanding of you and your place within your world and the surrounding world around you. These relationships help you along the way to make choices, what you will endure or not. It should not be a bother that if you and your values do not coincide with others in your reams, that you do not have to be part of that. If things upset you to much with these relationships, move on-learn from the lessons and find more suitable ones for the things you personally want to achieve for growth.
To have new relationships in your life, still there may be tests, to complete more of the picture of your individual understanding of your world. I had many friends growing up and each were fun and satisfying. We would many times learn together who we were, who we wanted to be as we grew and what values we would carry about who we would allow in our lives.
Your integrity is a big part of that. If your unmatched in values and what you hold dear as right or wrong then the relationship may suffer and so could you, possibly? If you find yourself empty handed, either spiritually, emotionally or other then I believe you will not have energy to carry on with that relationship; it becomes to one sided and not beneficial.
How much time would you put forth for a relationship, either friendship, work related, or partners-if it is one sided. Coming home to feel empty or worse. How your respect for yourself MUST be put first at all cost. If not, in the end you will lose to some degree. Hopefully not to much of your spirit and then are again able to carry on, with new relationships that do serve a purpose to your being, who you are, who you want to become. If it becomes detrimental in any regard, put yourself first or no one else will. You really don't want to be left empty handed in any way, emotionally or other-YOU are far to important to put yourself in an empty handed relationship.
How to know when it is time to move on, for me-personally...If I gave as much as I could give and still it is not enough, nor apprecited (even though never expecting in return except fairness and respect) then that to me is a point it is time to move forward-however hard or hurtful. If you are suffering physically, then please make the leap that others out there will respect you, NOT hurt you, give you strength instead of take away your power. Once your own personal power source is GONE, then please keep faith and move towards better relationships. Fair relationships, that are nurturing and understanding-where it is a fulfilling experience to draw from, for both! People come into your life for a reason, not to abuse you or your power. Either for a Season, a Lifetime or a Reason. They all serve a great and valuable purpose.
Hold the long standing relationships over the years dear, they don't come along often and not to very many. Pick and choose who YOU would like to have relationships with. You do have a choice with all of these; and the rest will fall off lightly like the automn leaves. Hold your values high, hold your standpoints first and foremost and don't be taken advantage of in any relationship. Use your voice to set the pace; and if you have to say goodbye to the relationships that do not work well with your standards-then whisper goodbye, close the door, open a window to let fresh new faces in-to respect and value the perfect person you are!
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