We all learn things here and there, better ways of being, better ways of seeing things and maybe along the way you are able to help someone or many people while continuing to change and grow, helping them in turn change and grow, as they are also a source for you to reflect on change. I learned a valuable lesson in 2014 one that will take me through the rest of my being. Years ago I learned how to say No, that was hard for me. I would feel guilty if someone asked something of me and I could not give and if I did, I would end up empty handed. I was being guilted into giving.
This year, although now almost mirrored as a cliche as the New Year is far behind us, my resolution sticks in 2015. I overcame something that I really did not even know was an issue, ever so slowly though, the issue was growing bigger and bigger. Now I choose my time wisely, not caught up in the middle of other peoples issues. Prior, there always seemed to be some crisis, something I was either digging out of, or someone else that I was wrapped up in. Today I have learned to stay distant from the triggers that would hold me back, hold me down, feeling insecure because of all the crisis of either myself or others. When in reality, now knowing that other peoples crisis are not my own. Now, I feel safe to say that I am able to be around the "stress" but with that, I do not give in to the on goings of others. Really, I had to put my priorities in order. I really had to put myself first, my health first, my mental health first, family first, my home and loved ones.
I had to come away from the upset and just know that if I want to survive mentally I can not harbour other peoples issues and make them my own. I am a sensitive being, I have been told that many times. My Mother can have a friend who is going through a crisis but she does not carry their issue, she is able to help as much as she can without jepeopridising her faith, her conviction, her health or her home. I wanted that, to stand on the outskirts, still caring but not carrying other peoples emotions. Now I can really say, that it is very refreshing, turning the other cheek, not getting mixed up and caught up. Where if I had a bad day at work, it would turn into a bad week, month then year. One little upset would seriously put me through the ringer.
I have finally learned how it feels to distant myself from situations that do not serve me. Now I deal with things when I am ready or not at all if it does not concern me. Other peoples issues on top of my own was really to much for me to bare.
Now I can really say that my home is my castle, my time with my loved ones is significant more now then ever, my survival tactics are better, my relationships are ones of ease and respect. I think that is a milestone in my recovery although I have had many obstacles and many things to help me WANT to grow. To be able to easily say yay or nay and now to respect myself enough to allow or disallow is effortless.
My Mother says all the time, all you can worry about is you and if I told her about an upset, she would say- "Not Your Problem" Now I finally got it.
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Positivity Is NOT a Catch Phrase
It is not just about thinking positive and whoosh everything that was every upsetting in your life magically disappears. If it were that simple that we all just said, "keep smiling, turn that frown upside down now"...Then life would be very simple wouldn't it be? It would almost be to simple, to boring and not many learned lessons to be had. No, Thinking positive is much more about Being a positive soul from inside out. Not just talking empty words of positive stimulation. But being that positive force that not only touches you and helps you through many obstacles....also touching the lives of others. Creating a life force within you that radiates somehow, big or small onto everyone you meet. In so, creating a change within them, that motivates them too to not only talk of nice things, but be GREAT even in any adversity.
I believe today, people throw around the Positive message to easily where now I see that it is becoming a HOAX...When in reality, it is an all knowing that Everyday, is a great day, Everyday there is much good and not much bad, Everyday getting up excited even just to go to the Dentist. Everyday is worthwhile and somehow a lesson or two come out of each day all through Positive Action.
I find it easier to live in the Light of Positivity, but not all must rely on such a paradigm. No you don't have to believe, of course not. It really did work for me and for many others I know and hey, much easier to get through the day, week, month, without being bothered by the trivial or not so trivial matters.
For me, I had to for the last Two years, maybe more-get through the crap! There were good times and bad, very good times and yes very bad. Many times crying myself to sleep, many times happy to wake up to enjoy a bright and sunny day and sunny disposition. I know with all my knowing that IF I did not turn to Positivity without it being a HOAX or a mainstream classification...Then I would NOT BE HERE TODAY. IF I let myself wallow in my pity, allow myself to dislike who I am because of blunders or mistakes...If I allowed any more of the crap without using my positive tool light to guide me..THEN I WOULD NOT COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE.
It is not about one day believing, one day not, one minute smiling the next scowling every where you go...although it does take practice. I had to walk the walk not just talk the talk of positivity. I truly believe if we all did this, time and time again turning to our power within to Think, Be and Act in desirable light for you, and FOR HIM...then There would be much less upset, much less emotional scars, much less depression, much less suicide...Dare I say?
If you had the chance to save someone out of misery, talk them out of a dump and into a positive walking being, able to handle any hiccup along the way, Would you be that positive force to help someone out of dread and to shed light onto an unhappy situation?
We had a rough go for a few years, I knew about my faith in positivity...I had to use it, I had to teach it to my loved one, I had to fight everyday to see the hour of positive faith and to use that faith to lean on by any means...I did not say, "Oh I am positive in a fluff"..I HAD TO BE that POSITIVE change within ME, to allow the process of HEALING to begin for US. I had to look forward to everyday, no matter what happened, I had to believe that great things are here for me now and that I am blessed, I had to THINK good, FEEL GOOD and BE GOOD. Of course I am human and to err is HUMAN, I know though that my TRUE unrelenting force of positivity that I had to create and lay groundwork from years ago had to be cultivated, I had to shed that light onto my days of adversity to allow my loved one and I to survive.
AND WE PREVAILED!
One may say, "OH ya just think positive" such a catch phrase now. That is just to simple, it is NOT a phrase or a word to be said loosely. IT is a production created within to be HAPPY, Choosing to BE happy, choosing to think of the many great blessings everyday...Even if one is at their utmost worse...EVEN if the most horrific things are going on around or within you. POSITIVITY is NOT a catch phrase...POSITIVITY can SAVE YOUR LIFE and YOUR SOUL and MANY OTHERS!! USE it with care.
I believe today, people throw around the Positive message to easily where now I see that it is becoming a HOAX...When in reality, it is an all knowing that Everyday, is a great day, Everyday there is much good and not much bad, Everyday getting up excited even just to go to the Dentist. Everyday is worthwhile and somehow a lesson or two come out of each day all through Positive Action.
I find it easier to live in the Light of Positivity, but not all must rely on such a paradigm. No you don't have to believe, of course not. It really did work for me and for many others I know and hey, much easier to get through the day, week, month, without being bothered by the trivial or not so trivial matters.
For me, I had to for the last Two years, maybe more-get through the crap! There were good times and bad, very good times and yes very bad. Many times crying myself to sleep, many times happy to wake up to enjoy a bright and sunny day and sunny disposition. I know with all my knowing that IF I did not turn to Positivity without it being a HOAX or a mainstream classification...Then I would NOT BE HERE TODAY. IF I let myself wallow in my pity, allow myself to dislike who I am because of blunders or mistakes...If I allowed any more of the crap without using my positive tool light to guide me..THEN I WOULD NOT COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE.
It is not about one day believing, one day not, one minute smiling the next scowling every where you go...although it does take practice. I had to walk the walk not just talk the talk of positivity. I truly believe if we all did this, time and time again turning to our power within to Think, Be and Act in desirable light for you, and FOR HIM...then There would be much less upset, much less emotional scars, much less depression, much less suicide...Dare I say?
If you had the chance to save someone out of misery, talk them out of a dump and into a positive walking being, able to handle any hiccup along the way, Would you be that positive force to help someone out of dread and to shed light onto an unhappy situation?
We had a rough go for a few years, I knew about my faith in positivity...I had to use it, I had to teach it to my loved one, I had to fight everyday to see the hour of positive faith and to use that faith to lean on by any means...I did not say, "Oh I am positive in a fluff"..I HAD TO BE that POSITIVE change within ME, to allow the process of HEALING to begin for US. I had to look forward to everyday, no matter what happened, I had to believe that great things are here for me now and that I am blessed, I had to THINK good, FEEL GOOD and BE GOOD. Of course I am human and to err is HUMAN, I know though that my TRUE unrelenting force of positivity that I had to create and lay groundwork from years ago had to be cultivated, I had to shed that light onto my days of adversity to allow my loved one and I to survive.
AND WE PREVAILED!
One may say, "OH ya just think positive" such a catch phrase now. That is just to simple, it is NOT a phrase or a word to be said loosely. IT is a production created within to be HAPPY, Choosing to BE happy, choosing to think of the many great blessings everyday...Even if one is at their utmost worse...EVEN if the most horrific things are going on around or within you. POSITIVITY is NOT a catch phrase...POSITIVITY can SAVE YOUR LIFE and YOUR SOUL and MANY OTHERS!! USE it with care.
Sunday, 21 December 2014
Would You Give up Your Dream?
There is not many things I would give up on, for my Dreams to be fulfilled. I do believe things take priorities at different points in your life and things have set backs to some degree, to me a burning flame is a burning flame. It comes from within and if you dream BIG enough, long enough, with enough faith, surrounding yourself with the right people, nothing will stand in your way. If you are a goal setter like I am and a motivated individual, working towards your dream or goal with your motivation for the fruitation of it being realized, it will come true. I do know the other side to not having your dream fulfilled. One reason I get along with my partner and husband so well is because he is a goal setter, motivated and he to is following his path of his dreams being fulfilled. The other side of that is perhaps following the standard quo, or possibly having a goal or dream but following what someone else wants for you-not your own. That side of it, I know first hand causes a lot of heartache.
Imagine, having a dream your whole life-even a bucket list type of dream...but never realizing it, never even talking about it. When you go to sleep at night though, that dream is there in your soul nugging at you to come out. It is always with you, it wants to be fulfilled. Your dream wants to make you feel whole; a complete circle from the inside out; no matter how big or small...it is all relative. I have watched many people who have had dreams, told me what they were....gave ideas on how to follow that path of hope, after I listened I would say "Oh you should do that, you would be great at that"! Then always there words are, "Ya BUT, it would not work"....I wonder how many times someone told that person it would never work? When I saw the gleam and sparkle in there eye, I saw that person light up, I saw the person talking fast, that I could even almost taste what they wanted. I believed whole heartedley that they could definatley have there dream fulfilled, they though did not.
Would you give up on your dream and if so, why?
At the beginning of each new year elementary school, the Teachers would come to the front, write there name on the board then ask us as students, "What do you want to be when you grow up"? When they came to me I would say shyly although truthfully, "I want to change the world" They then would say "How" I would again shyly say "By helping people" I guess the Teachers knew right then that I would not be on the honour role for any mathematics or any other glum teachings. That is still with me today, whether I do it through my writing, or in small ways when I meet people out and about...That is what drives me. Ultimatley that is what I still plan to do.
Don't give up on your dreams, whatever they are...There are far too too many people on their path for someone else, possibly a parental figure or for what ever other reason. I know to well, how it feels to come home from yes, a job you hate, etc etc etc. Following a dream, is not hard work, it is already staring you straight in the heart and deep within you. Could you see Rocky saying "ahhh, no I don't really want to go another round, although it is toe to toe and only five minutes left until the bell rings"? If he ever had done that, how could he see or know what the outcome would be...EVEN if he did not win that fight. Do you ever see an olympian soaring down the slopes beating everyone's time and then to say, "Ahh it is too cold, I am going to go warm up". Last example I promise. What if you were building a house, a dream home for you family, if you only had 5 days left and the whole house would be complete, would you throw down your hammer and say, I have a back pain...I guess this house can't be finished...? NO none of this would really make much sense if this or that was your true passion and dream. I could see if you were miserable at doing something, you would not want to do it for very long and then find a way to hopefully pursue your dreams.
The question yet still remains, Would you give up on your dream? The answer to me is plain and clear as day..."NO that would mean to give up on life, and YOURSELF.
Imagine, having a dream your whole life-even a bucket list type of dream...but never realizing it, never even talking about it. When you go to sleep at night though, that dream is there in your soul nugging at you to come out. It is always with you, it wants to be fulfilled. Your dream wants to make you feel whole; a complete circle from the inside out; no matter how big or small...it is all relative. I have watched many people who have had dreams, told me what they were....gave ideas on how to follow that path of hope, after I listened I would say "Oh you should do that, you would be great at that"! Then always there words are, "Ya BUT, it would not work"....I wonder how many times someone told that person it would never work? When I saw the gleam and sparkle in there eye, I saw that person light up, I saw the person talking fast, that I could even almost taste what they wanted. I believed whole heartedley that they could definatley have there dream fulfilled, they though did not.
Would you give up on your dream and if so, why?
At the beginning of each new year elementary school, the Teachers would come to the front, write there name on the board then ask us as students, "What do you want to be when you grow up"? When they came to me I would say shyly although truthfully, "I want to change the world" They then would say "How" I would again shyly say "By helping people" I guess the Teachers knew right then that I would not be on the honour role for any mathematics or any other glum teachings. That is still with me today, whether I do it through my writing, or in small ways when I meet people out and about...That is what drives me. Ultimatley that is what I still plan to do.
Don't give up on your dreams, whatever they are...There are far too too many people on their path for someone else, possibly a parental figure or for what ever other reason. I know to well, how it feels to come home from yes, a job you hate, etc etc etc. Following a dream, is not hard work, it is already staring you straight in the heart and deep within you. Could you see Rocky saying "ahhh, no I don't really want to go another round, although it is toe to toe and only five minutes left until the bell rings"? If he ever had done that, how could he see or know what the outcome would be...EVEN if he did not win that fight. Do you ever see an olympian soaring down the slopes beating everyone's time and then to say, "Ahh it is too cold, I am going to go warm up". Last example I promise. What if you were building a house, a dream home for you family, if you only had 5 days left and the whole house would be complete, would you throw down your hammer and say, I have a back pain...I guess this house can't be finished...? NO none of this would really make much sense if this or that was your true passion and dream. I could see if you were miserable at doing something, you would not want to do it for very long and then find a way to hopefully pursue your dreams.
The question yet still remains, Would you give up on your dream? The answer to me is plain and clear as day..."NO that would mean to give up on life, and YOURSELF.
Thursday, 18 December 2014
Unrequited LOVE-The Most Perfect of all LOVES
A LOVE-Unrequited LOVE, if you have had this type of love, you will too know it is the most perfect type of love. A love that for whatever reason, beyond your control could never be, could never flourish, could never amount to anything, for reasons so different for everyone who has had this type of never flourishing, yet never ending type of love. It happens to many, someone they meet along the way, maybe even almost begin a life with, yet just when that love is suppose to go to the next level-you are torn apart, never to be with that person, even if both have made attempts to relive the romance, it is in the past and there can be no future.
I have had that picture perfect type of love. It was not a love at first site, but a romance that was building throughout a couple of years, first as friends, then as a true romance, to an abrupt ending. An ending, not that we did not love, nor care...BUT because circumstances beyond our control took each of us on a path where we could not look back! Still though the love is there, maybe a hidden place within your heart, though not a yearning or pining away puppy dog love, just a knowing that you want the VERY BEST for that person, the other wants to see you do well, you never speak nor hear from them, but know that they are living the life that they deserve although with out you.
I had that love, it was easy, fun, romantic. Maybe partially because I was very young, not mature enough to have the love grow, we had to part ways. I was going through times that we could not handle as a maturing couple. I was in a state of sickness just being diagnosed with Bipolar. He was on his way to become a Teacher and I was all for that for him. Me, having to think of my wellness and him having to think of his future-WE simply did not have the time to put into a romance...one where I was in and out of the Hospital needing direction and therapy for my illness. Him putting years into his future of always striving to become a great Teacher, that neither one of us could hesitate on our path. I could not put him or our love first-I had to put my health first, He ultimately had to put his future and career first.
We spent Two years together, never arguing, never many disputes, we got along easily, effortlessly. I have fond memories as I Hope He does as well. We would spend the weekends being in our early 20s at our parents cottage in the summer months, going skiing in the winter months on day trips and other trips. We ate out at restaurants, He taught me about culture and how to survive College Life. There were not many things in our way. When I became sick, I lost myself completely and really believed I owed it to myself to Love myself first to regain strength and hope for wellness in my future. Having to say goodbye was difficult! With my failing illness that took Five years to grab a hold of, I had to make time for a proper recovery. He too had to step aside and allow me to recover. We made that decision and in a blink of an eye we were OVER, forever. Although we would gab on the telephone here and there throughout the years, we both knew that we would not be able to regain our love an unrequited of the sorts, that had to be laid to rest. I found out though that He was happy, His life did turn out, he got everything he wanted, a family and a great Teaching Career.
Me, my life turned out very well also, I worked hard to get my illness back in check and have, I found a career meant just for me, that I am passionate about. I have a Home, good friends, A great husband (who has no quams about me writing about my lost perfect love) and a baby on the way that we are gearing up for and are so thrilled and excited to have in our life to give love tenderly over the years. Both of our lives turned out.
Unrequited Love is a love so perfect, that you have to leave behind...BUT in the same sense, you could not or would not want it any other way. It is a Love untouched! To never to be had again. But a love that you respect and an admiration in the other person; although you know in your heart, you can not be with that person, that that love has surpassed. With that type of love, the unrequited kind, there is an acceptance, a feeling of knowing it is OK for you too to spend your lives separate and that is OK! With that love you do not have a feeling of emptiness for not going forth with that romance, or leaving you with a whole in your soul or heart. There is no missing that person, no wanting to be with that person...IT is just that love that was yours and you were glad of it, respect it so much but still know that it could never be. You are left though knowing that you were loved and you too still hold a place in their heart. They too think of you and are glad you are doing well, with or with out them. There is in this type of love, no drama, no questions, no hurt or feelings of bitterness.
With this type of love, leaving a great love in the past, because you know you have to do so, a love so true, almost too true though, that it just can not be, accepting that for what it is LOVE! A love remaining constant over time, knowing that it is OK that this love is not in your cards, that you gave up that love for good reason...A LOVE for yourself.
Unrequited love is the most perfect type of love because it is that untouched. The love I have for my husband is abundant and grows through the tests of time; one that I would never let go of, or ever waver from. It is a working romance, a good love, an unconditional love with respect and nurturing through any storm. Although, I have had this type of unrequited love, I believe it taught me for the first time TO love, to be in love, what love is. I have that love in the past, behind me, though now I know how to LOVE my husband and partner...AND NEVER LET HIM GO as I would never want to part ways with HIM my husband and partner as we grow and as I have grown into our love together...that nothing can conquer, not even UNREQUITED LOVE!
I have had that picture perfect type of love. It was not a love at first site, but a romance that was building throughout a couple of years, first as friends, then as a true romance, to an abrupt ending. An ending, not that we did not love, nor care...BUT because circumstances beyond our control took each of us on a path where we could not look back! Still though the love is there, maybe a hidden place within your heart, though not a yearning or pining away puppy dog love, just a knowing that you want the VERY BEST for that person, the other wants to see you do well, you never speak nor hear from them, but know that they are living the life that they deserve although with out you.
I had that love, it was easy, fun, romantic. Maybe partially because I was very young, not mature enough to have the love grow, we had to part ways. I was going through times that we could not handle as a maturing couple. I was in a state of sickness just being diagnosed with Bipolar. He was on his way to become a Teacher and I was all for that for him. Me, having to think of my wellness and him having to think of his future-WE simply did not have the time to put into a romance...one where I was in and out of the Hospital needing direction and therapy for my illness. Him putting years into his future of always striving to become a great Teacher, that neither one of us could hesitate on our path. I could not put him or our love first-I had to put my health first, He ultimately had to put his future and career first.
We spent Two years together, never arguing, never many disputes, we got along easily, effortlessly. I have fond memories as I Hope He does as well. We would spend the weekends being in our early 20s at our parents cottage in the summer months, going skiing in the winter months on day trips and other trips. We ate out at restaurants, He taught me about culture and how to survive College Life. There were not many things in our way. When I became sick, I lost myself completely and really believed I owed it to myself to Love myself first to regain strength and hope for wellness in my future. Having to say goodbye was difficult! With my failing illness that took Five years to grab a hold of, I had to make time for a proper recovery. He too had to step aside and allow me to recover. We made that decision and in a blink of an eye we were OVER, forever. Although we would gab on the telephone here and there throughout the years, we both knew that we would not be able to regain our love an unrequited of the sorts, that had to be laid to rest. I found out though that He was happy, His life did turn out, he got everything he wanted, a family and a great Teaching Career.
Me, my life turned out very well also, I worked hard to get my illness back in check and have, I found a career meant just for me, that I am passionate about. I have a Home, good friends, A great husband (who has no quams about me writing about my lost perfect love) and a baby on the way that we are gearing up for and are so thrilled and excited to have in our life to give love tenderly over the years. Both of our lives turned out.
Unrequited Love is a love so perfect, that you have to leave behind...BUT in the same sense, you could not or would not want it any other way. It is a Love untouched! To never to be had again. But a love that you respect and an admiration in the other person; although you know in your heart, you can not be with that person, that that love has surpassed. With that type of love, the unrequited kind, there is an acceptance, a feeling of knowing it is OK for you too to spend your lives separate and that is OK! With that love you do not have a feeling of emptiness for not going forth with that romance, or leaving you with a whole in your soul or heart. There is no missing that person, no wanting to be with that person...IT is just that love that was yours and you were glad of it, respect it so much but still know that it could never be. You are left though knowing that you were loved and you too still hold a place in their heart. They too think of you and are glad you are doing well, with or with out them. There is in this type of love, no drama, no questions, no hurt or feelings of bitterness.
With this type of love, leaving a great love in the past, because you know you have to do so, a love so true, almost too true though, that it just can not be, accepting that for what it is LOVE! A love remaining constant over time, knowing that it is OK that this love is not in your cards, that you gave up that love for good reason...A LOVE for yourself.
Unrequited love is the most perfect type of love because it is that untouched. The love I have for my husband is abundant and grows through the tests of time; one that I would never let go of, or ever waver from. It is a working romance, a good love, an unconditional love with respect and nurturing through any storm. Although, I have had this type of unrequited love, I believe it taught me for the first time TO love, to be in love, what love is. I have that love in the past, behind me, though now I know how to LOVE my husband and partner...AND NEVER LET HIM GO as I would never want to part ways with HIM my husband and partner as we grow and as I have grown into our love together...that nothing can conquer, not even UNREQUITED LOVE!
Tuesday, 16 December 2014
Imagine Three Flags of Hope and Peace
I learned of imagery when I was in my Twenties. I was on a path, wanting to learn more about humanity, more about spirituality and more about living in a way of abundance. Through out my life I have always had a knack for imagery. If I was to go to a party, I would think of something I would want to wear...actually the item would really POP into my mind. I would think "Oh that is a cute outfit" and I would imagine it until I would actually see something just like it OR so similar that I would have to purchase it and wear it well. I do this often now and always seem to find things that I can envision in the world surrounding me. It is not hokey pokey, although I know it may read that way. I can give more examples as to how this has worked for me in the past...it just happens-I see something in my minds eye and it appears, either months later or years.
With saying that. I for one am a big believer on World Peace and does not everyone want World Peace? A week ago I happened to visualize every country walking up to a special place in their country or ours and putting a WHITE flag tucked into the ground. This vision also just came to me, just popped up. I did this for as many countries as I could. I imagined the white flag, their flag or ours and a United Flag if you will. Each person of that country putting into the ground Three Flags of Hope and Peace!
I did this a few nights in a row and still plan to do this imagery of hope as I lay to rest. Imagine every country, just calling it quits to War, Just saying "NO, We WON'T allow this any further!"
It popped in my mind to have World Peace and One country for all. Living in a place of fairness, compassion and to have all the fighting OVER for once and for all. To some, I know may think War is needed...and may not agree or find this so far fetched...I though will still continue to Imagine this outbreak of peace for all.
This imagery can be done for anything you feel passionate towards. If someone you know or the many people that are fighting Cancer. Imagine them out and about, smiling, waving and having a great time with life. If one is suffering from this illness, imagine the young and old, playing basketball, or shoveling the driveway happily because they are well enough to do so, or any activity that shows them WELL and past the suffering of this awful disease. Imagine them coming out of the hospital Cancer FREE and what their smile would look like as they thank the nurses and doctors for taking such great care of them.
Do this imagery excersise for anything you would want to see in your own life or others you love or our nations... Imagine a family of need eating every night in abundance, with food on the table, food in the fridge and money in their pockets and bank accounts!!
Imagery is stronger then one recongnises! I have proved it in my own life time and time again, with simple material items that would just show up at random, picture perfect to the design in my mind. Boots that I have imagined, that I never saw before (that I know of) would show up..Thinking to myself "Hey that is what I imagined..."! Then other items would just creep in my minds eye and I would say again, "HEY, that is what I envisioned" I must have done this more then 200 times before, I realized that there must be something to this. So Popping in my mind about FLAGS OF HOPE and PEACE-I will imagine that every night, every moment that allows me and every time I feel upset about the War going on in the World around us.
Do this for anything you like, desire...OR NEED...For the Poor, the Sick, the Weak....Imagine Rich, Well and Strong!!!
With saying that. I for one am a big believer on World Peace and does not everyone want World Peace? A week ago I happened to visualize every country walking up to a special place in their country or ours and putting a WHITE flag tucked into the ground. This vision also just came to me, just popped up. I did this for as many countries as I could. I imagined the white flag, their flag or ours and a United Flag if you will. Each person of that country putting into the ground Three Flags of Hope and Peace!
I did this a few nights in a row and still plan to do this imagery of hope as I lay to rest. Imagine every country, just calling it quits to War, Just saying "NO, We WON'T allow this any further!"
It popped in my mind to have World Peace and One country for all. Living in a place of fairness, compassion and to have all the fighting OVER for once and for all. To some, I know may think War is needed...and may not agree or find this so far fetched...I though will still continue to Imagine this outbreak of peace for all.
This imagery can be done for anything you feel passionate towards. If someone you know or the many people that are fighting Cancer. Imagine them out and about, smiling, waving and having a great time with life. If one is suffering from this illness, imagine the young and old, playing basketball, or shoveling the driveway happily because they are well enough to do so, or any activity that shows them WELL and past the suffering of this awful disease. Imagine them coming out of the hospital Cancer FREE and what their smile would look like as they thank the nurses and doctors for taking such great care of them.
Do this imagery excersise for anything you would want to see in your own life or others you love or our nations... Imagine a family of need eating every night in abundance, with food on the table, food in the fridge and money in their pockets and bank accounts!!
Imagery is stronger then one recongnises! I have proved it in my own life time and time again, with simple material items that would just show up at random, picture perfect to the design in my mind. Boots that I have imagined, that I never saw before (that I know of) would show up..Thinking to myself "Hey that is what I imagined..."! Then other items would just creep in my minds eye and I would say again, "HEY, that is what I envisioned" I must have done this more then 200 times before, I realized that there must be something to this. So Popping in my mind about FLAGS OF HOPE and PEACE-I will imagine that every night, every moment that allows me and every time I feel upset about the War going on in the World around us.
Do this for anything you like, desire...OR NEED...For the Poor, the Sick, the Weak....Imagine Rich, Well and Strong!!!
Sunday, 7 December 2014
Distrust-Mistrust To Trust
When I first met my love match, I was blown off my feet! We spent the summer getting to know each other, sometimes at the beach, walking along on the hiking trails, going for bike rides; you get the idea-a typical lovers dating newlyweds. I was in pure bliss. He kept wanting to see me, so I supposed that was a good sign. His family lived very close to where I lived and we spent a lot of time in the yard, having BBQ'S, filling our days with getting to know each other gatherings. As I got to know his family along the way I could not believe how my once bitten twice shy personality was coming out and bubbling over. The usual, very quiet, don't say a peep, speak only when spoken too girl, was coming out laughing with the gang, sometimes the butt of the jokes; which was awesomely funny to me, and sometimes becoming the life of the party. One day my Love match invited me to his sisters to babysit, I have never been asked to babysit on a date-never meeting the sister before-BUT I jumped all over the chance to meet his family and hang with my new boyfriend. I loved the whole night, although his sisters plans were squashed, I was happy to be in company of good people.
In my last relationships, not knowing if I was coming or going, not saying anything that was really me, or on my mind- I had to ask over the years, "WHY do I feel so compelled by this man in front of me, why does he continue to want to see me, and why is his family so intriguing and interesting to me and in saying that they seemed interested in me. From someone who has been dumped, of course like a lot of men and woman, to being cheated on every other occasion, to someone who was accepted for the first time (Maybe because I was actually being me), why was it that THIS particular relationship was able to survive the course, the ups the downs, the stressful times, the boring times, the fights and arguments and yes, how did I come to such a place of such distrust, mistrust to NOW completely finally Trustful of my Love match, surroundings, place in life and along with that his family.
TIME, that's it, that is the cure! It was rough, to say how distrustful I actually was. There of course were past hurts that I was open and honest about, still it made it no easier to trust. People would say, TIME will allow you to heal, TIME, ya right! My love match and partner stuck through with me the best he could. His family knew of my mistrust but still allowed me to get OVER it. TIME, no amount of talking, rehashing the emotional upset would help but TIME. Now almost Five years together, I can finally say THAT TIME DOES heal all wounds. It is not just a saying, where before I would balk and say oh YA TIME, sure!
I never had a feeling of trust before awkwardly and sadly. Not complete trust, not really with anyone that I came across. So me, not even knowing what trust meant or felt like, how could I feel or be a trusting soul, I never trusted anyone prior. How could I say to my Love partner that I trust him when I never new what trust was. I could be trustworthy in my relationships, but as it seemed no one was totally completely full of Trust actions towards me. I thought it would never get better-the mistrust I felt from years past did not seem to be going anywhere. NOW, five years coming to our fifth Christmas together, I can honestly say- I KNOW nothing else but this love, nothing else but this man, nothing else but the trust I have in him. I can honestly say for the first time I have trust in someone. It did not come easy and was not just TIME alone. I had to practice trusting and I put trust in to GOD in the meantime to see my mis faith in humanity through and to come out the other side. For the last Years, when I did not trust, I turned to GOD, I trusted that HE was listening- that I could trust. I gave him all my fears day after day and HE took care of it.
I had to practice trust, if I was having an anxious mistrusting day, I had to believe that much more that my TRUE love Match would not hurt me, or our LOVE. I had to believe in US and put the faith back in believing in LOVE and destiny which does happen to everyone, everywhere. Practicing trust was not fun, although challenging, I am better for trusting my man, and so is our love connection and so is our home, life together....Now I think, BOY what a waste of time-BUT a good learning tool. To know that I am safe in this world with this man, where my life was so taken over by emotional upsets time and time again-now it is easy to be with me and I know the worse is over. We came through!
I know in relationships, there are huge ups and huge downs....I will enjoy our love, our trust and everything WE have worked for...layering the foundation for the downs that every person, couple, family and life goes through. I am peaceful with my love and trust...I am happy I can finally feel trust, even when it was staring me right in the face. It did make us stronger, now I think learning to trust so late in life is better then never learning trust and love at all. In this I am truly blessed and feel so ridden of the past that there is only now. It is easy for me to look at my LOVE MATCH and think...I Know I am going to be with this man until the end of our days...it is easy to see the love, feel the love and just have the knowing we are here, now until it is time to say goodbye...Now, I am happy, content and in LOVE with the man meant for me-WHO TAUGHT me HOW finally how to TRUST.
In my last relationships, not knowing if I was coming or going, not saying anything that was really me, or on my mind- I had to ask over the years, "WHY do I feel so compelled by this man in front of me, why does he continue to want to see me, and why is his family so intriguing and interesting to me and in saying that they seemed interested in me. From someone who has been dumped, of course like a lot of men and woman, to being cheated on every other occasion, to someone who was accepted for the first time (Maybe because I was actually being me), why was it that THIS particular relationship was able to survive the course, the ups the downs, the stressful times, the boring times, the fights and arguments and yes, how did I come to such a place of such distrust, mistrust to NOW completely finally Trustful of my Love match, surroundings, place in life and along with that his family.
TIME, that's it, that is the cure! It was rough, to say how distrustful I actually was. There of course were past hurts that I was open and honest about, still it made it no easier to trust. People would say, TIME will allow you to heal, TIME, ya right! My love match and partner stuck through with me the best he could. His family knew of my mistrust but still allowed me to get OVER it. TIME, no amount of talking, rehashing the emotional upset would help but TIME. Now almost Five years together, I can finally say THAT TIME DOES heal all wounds. It is not just a saying, where before I would balk and say oh YA TIME, sure!
I never had a feeling of trust before awkwardly and sadly. Not complete trust, not really with anyone that I came across. So me, not even knowing what trust meant or felt like, how could I feel or be a trusting soul, I never trusted anyone prior. How could I say to my Love partner that I trust him when I never new what trust was. I could be trustworthy in my relationships, but as it seemed no one was totally completely full of Trust actions towards me. I thought it would never get better-the mistrust I felt from years past did not seem to be going anywhere. NOW, five years coming to our fifth Christmas together, I can honestly say- I KNOW nothing else but this love, nothing else but this man, nothing else but the trust I have in him. I can honestly say for the first time I have trust in someone. It did not come easy and was not just TIME alone. I had to practice trusting and I put trust in to GOD in the meantime to see my mis faith in humanity through and to come out the other side. For the last Years, when I did not trust, I turned to GOD, I trusted that HE was listening- that I could trust. I gave him all my fears day after day and HE took care of it.
I had to practice trust, if I was having an anxious mistrusting day, I had to believe that much more that my TRUE love Match would not hurt me, or our LOVE. I had to believe in US and put the faith back in believing in LOVE and destiny which does happen to everyone, everywhere. Practicing trust was not fun, although challenging, I am better for trusting my man, and so is our love connection and so is our home, life together....Now I think, BOY what a waste of time-BUT a good learning tool. To know that I am safe in this world with this man, where my life was so taken over by emotional upsets time and time again-now it is easy to be with me and I know the worse is over. We came through!
I know in relationships, there are huge ups and huge downs....I will enjoy our love, our trust and everything WE have worked for...layering the foundation for the downs that every person, couple, family and life goes through. I am peaceful with my love and trust...I am happy I can finally feel trust, even when it was staring me right in the face. It did make us stronger, now I think learning to trust so late in life is better then never learning trust and love at all. In this I am truly blessed and feel so ridden of the past that there is only now. It is easy for me to look at my LOVE MATCH and think...I Know I am going to be with this man until the end of our days...it is easy to see the love, feel the love and just have the knowing we are here, now until it is time to say goodbye...Now, I am happy, content and in LOVE with the man meant for me-WHO TAUGHT me HOW finally how to TRUST.
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